Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Step Ten is our daily work and reflection. Self-awareness and accountability are essential to our recovery. When we were using nicotine we were self-seeking and selfish. With all the Step work done to this point, our ability to be rigorously honest with ourselves and to act with conscious compassionate courage has grown. However, nicotine is cunning, powerful, and patient, and our shortcomings have a long history. We need to be continually vigilant to maintain our recovery and humility.
Continued to take personal inventory in order to maintain our responsibility for our behavior and reduce the risk of slipping back into our character defects. We want to act consciously and reflect on anything we are doing wrong, as well as what we are doing right. We keep the focus on our own personal inventory, not on that of others.
10-1: What is the purpose of Step Ten and why is it useful to me, specifically?
10-2: Why are self-awareness and accountability essential to my recovery?
10-3: What daily program-guided actions do I practice to maintain my recovery?
10-4: Am I regularly consulting with my sponsor and Higher Power?_____
10-5: Are there any of my wrongs that I am not willing to share with my sponsor? (Ask daily) Explain.
10-6: Is there something I should have done today but didn’t?_Why?
10-7: Are there people, places, and things that regularly challenge my recovery? Identify.
10-8: Do I have attitudes and reactions that regularly challenge my recovery? Describe.
10-9: What means or methods can I use to check up on myself on a regular basis?
10-10: Is a journal or diary a way for me to track my daily interactions and feelings? ______Why?
10-11: Am I accounting for when I do right as well as when I do wrong?_Why?
10-12: What feelings and objectives are motivating my behavior today? Ask daily.
10-13: Are there recurring initial reactions of mine once I realize I have done a misdeed?_______ Describe.
10-14: Did I find myself obsessing about anything today?___Explain.
10-15: Did I ignore being hungry, angry, lonely, or tired today?___Describe.
10-16: Did I treat myself well today?_____Describe.
10-17: Which recent emotional situations did not require a response, other than to just feel the feeling?
10-18: Have there been recent events to which I was not sure how or whether to respond?______Explain.
10-19: What character defects am I discovering now that I missed or ignored in my Step Four inventory?
10-20: What will help me keep my Step Ten work positive and gentle, yet honest?
10-21: In what ways have I offered service as an amends to my home group, Intergroup, and / or World Services?
10-22: Have I reached out to welcome newcomers?_
10-23: Have I acknowledged what I am grateful for today?
10-24: Have I added anything new to my gratitude list?
When we were wrong, we promptly admitted it, is not a claim many of us can make, particularly before entering this recovery process. Even to know what is «right» and what is ‘wrong» is not always that clear to us. Working the Steps with the guidance of a Higher Power and a sponsor helps us decide what is true for us. When we feel «in our gut» that our behavior is not aligned with our best self, we may become more attuned to our body messages.
Humility enables us to learn the difference between right behavior and self-righteousness. We recognize the problems that occur for us when we conceal, deny, or delay owning our responsibility for our wrong actions.
The first person to admit our wrongs to is ourselves. Sometimes we are the only one involved in the wrong, and we do not want to ignore or dismiss those incidents just because they do not involve another person directly. Prejudices and intolerance, even when silent, need our prompt attention.
Wrongs done to others are best addressed as soon as appropriate. Generally, we find it useful to establish a regular routine at some point in our day, typically the end of a day, particularly to reflect on anything we have missed during the course of a busy day. We can then determine what we can do, and when we can do it, to be accountable. We elevate our spirits as we raise our standards and resolve to change the things we can.
10-25: How does promptly admitting my wrongs support my recovery goals?
10-26: What concerns or fears do I have about practicing this Step?
10-27: Am I still taking care not to do additional harm by admitting my wrongs? _
10-28: Are there particular areas of my life that my sponsor wants me to focus on? Explain.
10-29: What are my strategies for handling times I get angry, or someone is angry with me?
10-30: What have been the reactions of people to whom I have apologized or admitted I was wrong?
10-31: What have been the results of practicing Step Ten?
10-32: What are the risks and problems created by my not acting promptly when I have done wrong?
10-33: What silent or unseen wrongs have I needed to admit to recently?
10-34: Have I justified a wrong behavior lately because I was reacting to a wrong done to me?________Explain.
10-35: Have I justified a wrong behavior lately by misusing a principle of the program?__________Explain.
10-36: If I recognize wrongs that I commit repeatedly, despite my best intentions, would I consider engaging professional help?______Explain.__________________________________
10-37: If I have noticed tension in any of my relationships, without being aware of the cause, can I be willing to ask if I have done something that may have created some discord?_______Explain.
10-38: How has working Step Ten made living in the present clearer and more comfortable?
10-39: How has working Step Ten improved my relationships with other people in my life?
10-40: How has being willing to appropriately admit any wrong furthered my spiritual growth and my relationship with my Higher Power?