Рабочая Тетрадь. Шаг 4

Step Four
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Step Four will examine who we are and what we have done in our lifetime so far. If we do not thoroughly understand how we got to where we are, how can we expect to know which behaviors and beliefs works for us, and which do not? Step Four is a process of examination, layer by layer, of our lives. What we discover in Step Four will be of use as we work Steps Five through Nine. NicA members can work this Step using this workbook and any other device to record their thoughts.
In working Step Four you may also respond to the material in Part II—The Questionnaire in Nicotine Anonymous: The Book. Review the chapter on Step Four in Nicotine Anonymous: The Book for additional suggestions on working Step Four. You may want to safeguard all your writings in a secure space until you decide what is appropriate to share with others.
Searching and fearless are conditions that require thoroughness and courage. This is an opportunity to exercise and strengthen our courage to examine issues we likely avoided or denied. In spite of our fears, we need to ask our Fligher Power for the courage to face what we need to face, to change the things we can. We don’t have to force or rush ourselves through the work. We can pace ourselves and work at this in manageable sessions. However, it is best work at it consistently and with an honest effort in order to more fully gain the benefits.
Ask yourself:
4-1: Am I resisting a «searching and fearless» start to working this Step?_Explain.
4-2: Do I have any reasons to delay working this Step?_______Explain.
4-3: What actions am I willing to take, no matter how small, to move forward with this Step?
4—4: What has helped me to be searching and fearless in other aspects in my life?
4-5: What motivates me to work this Step?
4-6: What feelings do I have as I work this Step?
4-7: Am I searching back and considering connections before my addiction began? Explain.
Moral, according to a dictionary, is: «of or relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior.» Each person determines what is his or her moral code, which may or may not completely align with his or her culture or peers. In order to get our lives on the «right» path we need to be clear about our own principles that will determine our «right» actions.
With the care and wisdom of our Higher Power and the support of a sponsor, we can sort out the differences between right and wrong. The Third Step Prayer is also a good guide in this process. Our sense of self improves when we develop clarity between what honorably works for us and what does not.
Ask yourself:
4-8: How do I define «moral»?________________________________________________________
4-9: Do I have resentments about morals being restrictive to my freedom?_Explain.
4-10: Are there moral principles on which I want to live my life?____Define and
describe their value.
4-11: Why is it important to evaluate both the current strengths and weaknesses of my behavior and attitudes?
4-12: Before, during, and after a session of working on this Step, am I willing to ask for the guidance of my Higher Power?____Explain.
Inventory means a thorough accounting of everything—every behavior, every attitude, right and wrong, functional and dysfunctional. It includes our strengths and weaknesses, as well as what is missing or maybe «forgotten to re-stock ourselves.» This is not a shaming list of our «dirty rotten things.» It is more how a store owner accounts for what stock he or she has and what stock he or she needs in order to have a «better business.»
Ask yourself:
4-13: Am I willing to do a written inventory?_Explain the reasons this decision.
4-14: What additional methods can I utilize in this process?
4-15: In what manner will I schedule time to work on this inventory?
4-16: Do I think I deserve to use nicotine products?_Why?
4-17: Do I feel empowered by holding on to resentments?_________List and describe any
and all resentments of people and institutions.
4-18: Do I feel and carry guilt feelings about certain past actions?_____________Describe any
and all.
4-19: Do I usually apologize for my misdeeds?___When and why have I not
apologized?
4-20: Am I aware of ongoing anxieties that have limited my life’s opportunities? Explain.
4-21: Am I subject to ongoing feelings of inadequacy and/or superiority? What people, places, or things trigger those feelings?
4-22: What people, places, and things are unhealthy for me, but may be difficult to let go of?
4-23: How do I usually feel when I am alone?
4-24: What feelings do I have the most trouble allowing myself to feel? Identify and explain.
4-25: How do I react to the different feelings that arise?
4-26: What means or methods have I used to deny my feelings?
4-27: Identify each feeling and typical reaction.
4-29: What has been the impact of significant relationships in my life?
4-30: Have there been consequences as a result of brief relationships?______Explain.
4-31: Can I identify unhealthy patterns or recurring defects of character in certain relationships?_______Describe.
4-32: In what ways is my opinion of myself different from how others feel about me?
4-33: How do I avoid intimacy with friends, family, and mates?
4-34: How would I answer—»The things other people don’t know about me are …
4-35: What are my darkest secrets I haven’t allowed anyone to know?
4-36: What are the characteristics about myself that I like?
4-37: What are my strengths and talents?
4-38: What goals have I achieved in my lifetime?
4-39: What service have I offered my NicA group, Intergroup, and / or World Services?
4-40: What services am I willing to offer my group, my fellowship, and/or my fellow persons?
4-41: Am I using all five tools of the program?_Explain the use of each tool.
4-42: In what ways do I express my gratitude to my NicA group?
4^13: In what ways do I express my gratitude to people in my life today?
4-44: After review, have I been as thorough and honest as I can with all my responses?______
4-45: Have I completed The Questionnaire in Part Two of Nicotine Anonymous: the Book?_____
4-46: Why does NicA suggest that an inventory be ongoing?
4-47: Do I feel committed to the process?___
Ourselves is the focus of this Step, not the behavior and attitude of others. We accept the reality that the only person we can change is ourselves. We are empowered when we take responsibility for our actions. This focus allows us to be more open to hear the wisdom of our Higher Power.
4-48: Why is it important to focus on my own behavior and attitudes—and not that of others?
4-49: Which of my strengths and principles do I value highly?________Why?
4-50: What are the important things that I have learned about myself through working this Step?
4-51: How can I identify that my habit of making excuses is developing into a habit of dishonesty?
4-52: Do I appreciate the value of more clearly knowing who I am?______Explain.