Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Step Five is an action Step and asks us to build on the courage we have been developing from the earlier Steps. Attending meetings with seasoned members likely provides positive examples of the authentic growth and self-esteem experienced by practicing Step Five. Meetings help us develop the trust that supports coming clean so that we can live clean of nicotine.
Admitting to anything can be difficult for us. However, now at Step Five, we have already done a considerable amount of courageous work. It may be uncomfortable at times as we face and release the painful realities of our wrongful actions. However, admitting some things may also come more as a relief than a discomfort. The «baggage» we’ve carried alone and kept hidden and suppressed has been a heavy burden.
There may be different reactions and / or challenges to admitting the exact nature of our wrongs to our Higher Power than doing so to ourselves, or even to another human being. Also, speaking our admissions out loud can be more powerful than silently within our heads. Physiologically, human brains process audible articulations differently than silent ruminations.
5-1: What feelings come up when I think about sharing what and why I’ve done wrong?
5-2: Have I set a time and place to begin working this Step?__
5-3: What will help me find the courage I need each time I interact with my Higher Power and other people while I work this Step?
5-4: Am I able to be completely honest about the mistakes I have made?_Explain.
5-5: What did I experience while I actually admitted my wrongs?
5-6: What were the results of making these admissions?
God, ourselves, and another human being are the three ways we are asked to direct our admissions. Each way may be experienced differently from the others. Working this Step can also foster more integration of these three types of relationships. We are working at coming clean with our Higher Power, ourselves, and others, in part, to get clean of nicotine and stay clean of nicotine.
5-7: Is there a difference in admitting things to myself, to my Higher Power, and to others? _____Why?
5-8: Am I willing to speak aloud to my Higher Power?________Why?
5-9: How is my Third Step decision reaffirmed by working Step Five?
5-10: How can I incorporate the Third Step Prayer in my Step Five process?
5-11: Am I using my Step Four inventory as a guide to completely admit all my wrongs?_______Explain.
5-12: How do I feel reading my Step Four inventory out loud to myself?
5-13 Am I able or willing to work with a sponsor in this process?__Explain.
5-14: Am I experiencing humility or humiliation?____Explain what generates one
rather than the other.
5-15: How does humility connect me to other people?
5-17: What were the reasons and qualities that helped me determine why I chose the person or persons with which to work Step Five?
5-18: What feelings about myself am I experiencing as I work this Step?
5-19: What feelings about the listener am I experiencing as I work this Step?
5-20: What is it like to have this type of relationship with another person?
5-21: Can I identify what I felt before working this Step, and how I feel afterwards? ______Describe.
5-22: Am I maintaining the focus on my responsibility, and not looking to blame others when I make these admissions?____________Explain.
5-23: How may my chosen listener help me be clear about what I am not responsible for?
5-24: At this point, do I have more trust that working the Steps will help me recover from my nicotine addiction?______Explain
5-25: How will making these admissions affect how I live my life now and in the future?
5-27: Do I have concerns or doubts about this process?__Explain and discuss.
5-28: In what ways has my understanding of myself changed or become clearer than it was after working Step Four?
5-29: By working this Step, what have I learned about myself regarding each of the following: shame, trust, fear, courage, humility, self-acceptance, judgment, forgiveness, compassion, human nature?
The exact nature of our wrongs focuses our attention on the underlying reasons and motivations for our behavior. As we speak, patterns that repeat can become more evident, which can then be further examined in discussion. These patterns may become identified as our «character defects,» which become part of the healing process in Step Six.
5-30: Was it challenging to be «exact»?_Explain.
5-31: Why is it important to examine the exact nature of my wrongs and not just the wrongs themselves?
5.32: What were the consequences of these patterns of behavior and attitudes?
5-33: As a result of working this Step, what insights have I had into why I behaved the way I did in the past?
5-34: What specific incident or series of incidents influenced the development of these wrongs?_________________________________________________________________